Stay in touch

In the last five years or so I’ve been notoriously bad at keeping in touch. It's not that I don't think of people, and it's not even that I don't think of getting in touch. It’s that there’s something that’s got to give and for me that has been hour long phone calls amongst a few other things.

Sometimes we get annoyed when we have a friend who never initiates an invitation or a phone call. Danielle, I’m reminded of you :) If it bothers you to always do the calling, but you truly value this friendship, maybe it’s time to forget about protocol. I have friends who I’ve known for 20 years and we always pick up where we left off when we see each other again but we can go for years without as much as a phone call. Again, Danielle, that’s you! *lol* Just because you’re the one who always calls does not necessarily mean that the friendship is one-sided. I have friends who are always so glad I called, or sent a birthday card, or wrote, but they rarely ever reciprocate. I do all the staying in touch. It’s not something I fully understand, except to say it’s the way these people are wired. I rarely worry that these girls aren't interested in a friendship with me. I honestly feel that I'd pick up on a vibe if that were indeed the case. Is that ballsy? Am I being a little too overconfident? Well, maybe, but I do think most of us can tell the difference between a friend who isn't good at keeping in touch, and a friend who wants us out of her life.

Think about it; perhaps there is someone who calls, emails, or generally seeks you out more than you do them. How does it make you feel when they call? You enjoy hearing from them, right? I love it!

You may think you’ll have time to stay in touch, and just as you’re about to reach out, your child (or children) needs help with a problem or your husband needs to vent about a work situation. You forget to call your friend during the time she was on your mind and just like that, weeks have passed. Don’t feel guilty! Our girlfriends understand that it’s important to put the needs of our family first. But don’t let this go on perpetually.

Why not contact someone, who you call friend, this week? Go through your address book and call.

I need to call Jen about her reduction and to catch up on gossip from Minnesota, Sheri since she just had a new baby, Michelle to update her on my life and to get her update, Megan to get the scoop on the new/old bf, Beth to check up on her, Twila to get news about my nephew and nieces, Lisa to wish her a Happy Birthday, Charel to ask how I can pray for her family, Danette because she needs to talk to me, and Shirleen to catch up since we’ve been playing phone tag for a month now! And that’s only half of my list! I think I’ll rely on Facebook and text for the rest.

Fabulous friendships can die through neglect. Don't allow this to happen to you. With Facebook, Skype, IMs, text, etc. there should be NO reason why I can’t stay in touch with my friends.

To quote from Nike, JUST DO IT!