One of the biggest challenges grad students face is dealing with the number of demands coming at them from different directions: class work, assignments, reading - combine that for some students with working full- or part-time, being married, and raising a family. As a grad student, wife, mother, friend, volunteer, taxi cab driver, daughter, sister, neighbor, etc. I’ve found that I’ve needed to set priorities and needed to relax in other areas like having a completely clean house. I’ve also reduced my cooking down to 3 or 4 days a week, the rest of the week are for left overs, frozen pizza, and popcorn chicken.
Keep healthy: While in grad school, it is essential that you take care of yourself physically, emotional and mentally; I recommend massages. Assess your energy level. If you are not getting enough sleep then you will not be able to retain as much information; I go to bed by 11. Graduate school faculty and administrators recommend that you try to keep some balance in your life while doing your graduate studies. Keep your perspective by getting enough rest, exercise, and eating a healthy diet; all easier said than done!
Schedule family time: Manage your time wisely because it will determine your success or failure. Some students find it helpful to schedule a regularly occurring date with their family and keep it no matter what; I plan time with husband around business trips. Be honest with your children and spouse about the amount of time you have available to them; this sometimes require you to drop what you’re doing to play a game of HORSE or to cuddle. Answering their questions and taking time to explain the situation can go a long way.
Get to know people: Make friends with the other students in your classes - these people are facing the same challenges you are. Create a support system among your classmates (Facebook is an awesome tool). You will find the reassurance, reminders and interaction that you get from the other students to be invaluable. The ability to establish good working relationships with your fellow students and faculty are also important. Every single person in your class is a potential contact in your field. You will need these contacts later as your career and experience develop.
Be organized: In graduate school, you are expected to attend classes. If you miss even one, you'll have a huge amount of work to catch up on. Plenty of learning in graduate studies comes from experiences rather than what you learn in class and read in your texts. But still be prepared to do considerably more reading and research than your undergrad experience. Learn to be organized. Have time and task management systems prepared ahead of time. Get a daytimer (since this is almost obsolete, most of us now use our smart phones), calendar or PDA that allows you to plug in deadlines, group meetings, family obligations, volunteer work, or mentoring/tutoring time. I have my calendar on my phone, at my desk at work, and at my desk at home. I know, I’ve been told I’m an obsessive compulsive.
Approach your studies with the right attitude: Think of graduate school as a job, rather than school. Take initiative in advancing your own skills and learning, much like in a job. Be prepared for more work and less fun than your undergrad years, but the learning will be more fulfilling. The main difference between graduate studies and undergrad is that you will actually apply what you've been learning in many different ways throughout the classes. If I'm honest, I must confess that I hope it brings in the prestige and big bucks!
As grad students we face many pressures. There are even more demands on time for those students with families and jobs. Reading, group meetings, and expectations of faculty are just a few of the pressures. Staying focused and being persistent are important skills needed to be successful in graduate school. We already have the intelligence and initiative.
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Resolve to Laugh More in 2011
Research shows that laughter, the physiological response to humor, has a beneficial impact on one’s health. A good belly laugh leads to muscle relaxation, resulting in decreased tension. Humor also reduces the levels of stress hormones found in the blood — stress hormones can weaken the immune system, leading to increased potential for illness. To top it off, studies have shown that watching a 60-minute comedy can sufficiently increase immunoglobulin A, which protects against upper respiratory problems and increases the number of natural killer cells that seek out and destroy tumor cells in the body. Laughter has also been associated with pain reduction. It is theorized that this is due to the production of endorphins, the body’s natural pain killer, coupled with muscle relaxation.
In 2011, I have resolve to try and look at life’s frustrating and stressful situations with an eye for how I can re-frame and see the humor in the situation. With introspection, I realize that most of the time, I keep telling myself, “Let her (my7years old who dresses like Punky Brewster-Google and have yourself a good laugh) wear what she wants, someday, you’ll look back on this laugh.” One day I’ll look through these pictures of the many phases of Angelina’s attire and smile at the fond memories. Though, for the most part she’s a “mini me”, I find that I no longer have any say when it comes to her attire; she has her own sense of style and no one can teach her differently, though Christen and I have tirelessly and patiently tried. I picture myself someday telling these stories to my friends, family, and grandchildren, throw in a few added embellishments, and I can give myself and those around me more to laugh about.
So, if you’re not naturally funny, how can you go about adding fun, laughter, and happiness into your life? These health tips can help you develop your sense of humor!
• Hang funny cartoons or pictures where they will be a constant visual cue to smile (on the refrigerator, over your work desk, next to your bed).
• Find a good joke book at your library or bookstore, or search for jokes on the Internet. Learn one or two good ones and practice them on your friends. Schedule a joke night with family where everyone must tell a joke at dinner.
• Rent some funny movies.
• Try to see the humor in your own situation as much as possible.
• Laugh at yourself!
By the way, a doctor was reviewing his patient’s test results and called the patient’s wife to tell her of his findings. “Your husband is a very sick man — his cholesterol and blood pressure are very high and his diabetes is out of control. Unless you do what I tell you he will be dead in six months”.
“What should I do?” she asks.
“Remove all stress from his life, keep the house spotlessly clean, cook him three nutritious meals a day and have sex with him whenever he wants.”
The wife hung up the phone and said to her husband: “That was Dr. Smith with your test results.”
“What did he say?”
“He said you’re going to die.”
In 2011, I have resolve to try and look at life’s frustrating and stressful situations with an eye for how I can re-frame and see the humor in the situation. With introspection, I realize that most of the time, I keep telling myself, “Let her (my7years old who dresses like Punky Brewster-Google and have yourself a good laugh) wear what she wants, someday, you’ll look back on this laugh.” One day I’ll look through these pictures of the many phases of Angelina’s attire and smile at the fond memories. Though, for the most part she’s a “mini me”, I find that I no longer have any say when it comes to her attire; she has her own sense of style and no one can teach her differently, though Christen and I have tirelessly and patiently tried. I picture myself someday telling these stories to my friends, family, and grandchildren, throw in a few added embellishments, and I can give myself and those around me more to laugh about.
So, if you’re not naturally funny, how can you go about adding fun, laughter, and happiness into your life? These health tips can help you develop your sense of humor!
• Hang funny cartoons or pictures where they will be a constant visual cue to smile (on the refrigerator, over your work desk, next to your bed).
• Find a good joke book at your library or bookstore, or search for jokes on the Internet. Learn one or two good ones and practice them on your friends. Schedule a joke night with family where everyone must tell a joke at dinner.
• Rent some funny movies.
• Try to see the humor in your own situation as much as possible.
• Laugh at yourself!
By the way, a doctor was reviewing his patient’s test results and called the patient’s wife to tell her of his findings. “Your husband is a very sick man — his cholesterol and blood pressure are very high and his diabetes is out of control. Unless you do what I tell you he will be dead in six months”.
“What should I do?” she asks.
“Remove all stress from his life, keep the house spotlessly clean, cook him three nutritious meals a day and have sex with him whenever he wants.”
The wife hung up the phone and said to her husband: “That was Dr. Smith with your test results.”
“What did he say?”
“He said you’re going to die.”
Monday, January 3, 2011
For my mother
What is a single mother? Is she a woman with much strength and love or pain and fear? Maybe she's the devil in disguise or perhaps the angel beneath the pain.
Could she be a single woman of much style and grace?
One thing is for certain; no one can understand what a single mother is unless they experience the feeling themselves. A single mother is a woman who is filled with everlasting, unconditional love, and words of wisdom to guide the way through life.
A single mother doesn't receive much credit today for the way she dedicates her life to working long hard hours and making time in her busy schedule to take care of what is hers. She goes through life trying so hard to do her best for her child, yet sometimes she feels as if the world is caving in.
I've had a single mother for thirty years of my life. It wasn't easy. I had to grow up quicker than most kids so that I could help my mother. Thoughts of not having a father became an issue from time to time, but today I wouldn't change it for the world!
When I was a little girl and I fell and scraped my knee; good old mom was there to doctor me up with her tender touch and loving care. She tucked me into bed at night and rubbed my belly when I was sick.
When the time came to cry, my mom had a way of showing me how to take my hanging head and hold it up high and proud. As adulthood moved in and romance became a part of my life, mother was often needed.
I fell in love and he broke my heart. I ran to my mother and poured out all my pain. I couldn't seem to conquer the fear of moving on and tears fell like the rain pouring down on a dark, gloomy day, but mom was always there.
She taught me how to disregard my fears, and she calmed my cries by showing me that life goes on. She told me "You have to accept what has gone wrong, forgive him and yourself and move on."
Some say a mother is one who bears children, one who cooks and cleans and that's all she is here for. For me, she's the soothing of the soul and the healing of the heart.
A mother: a kind-hearted woman with much strength, wisdom, and integrity.
Could she be a single woman of much style and grace?
One thing is for certain; no one can understand what a single mother is unless they experience the feeling themselves. A single mother is a woman who is filled with everlasting, unconditional love, and words of wisdom to guide the way through life.
A single mother doesn't receive much credit today for the way she dedicates her life to working long hard hours and making time in her busy schedule to take care of what is hers. She goes through life trying so hard to do her best for her child, yet sometimes she feels as if the world is caving in.
I've had a single mother for thirty years of my life. It wasn't easy. I had to grow up quicker than most kids so that I could help my mother. Thoughts of not having a father became an issue from time to time, but today I wouldn't change it for the world!
When I was a little girl and I fell and scraped my knee; good old mom was there to doctor me up with her tender touch and loving care. She tucked me into bed at night and rubbed my belly when I was sick.
When the time came to cry, my mom had a way of showing me how to take my hanging head and hold it up high and proud. As adulthood moved in and romance became a part of my life, mother was often needed.
I fell in love and he broke my heart. I ran to my mother and poured out all my pain. I couldn't seem to conquer the fear of moving on and tears fell like the rain pouring down on a dark, gloomy day, but mom was always there.
She taught me how to disregard my fears, and she calmed my cries by showing me that life goes on. She told me "You have to accept what has gone wrong, forgive him and yourself and move on."
Some say a mother is one who bears children, one who cooks and cleans and that's all she is here for. For me, she's the soothing of the soul and the healing of the heart.
A mother: a kind-hearted woman with much strength, wisdom, and integrity.
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