Decorating

I’ve always been a firm believer that kids’ bedrooms should be organized, have a theme (sports for boys and princess for girls), and are neat and tidy. In the last six months or so I’m finding that I need to learn to walk away and have the mindset of “this is not my room, it's theirs.” This has become my mantra and I also avoid going into their rooms as much as possible.

If you are planning on decorating your child’s bedroom, to avoid fights, hassles and headaches, let them be involved in the planning stage. As parents, we tend to put our likes and dislikes on our children. However, children have minds of their own; they have their own likes and dislikes. We learned this when they were two, and the “terrible two’s” commenced. How could we have forgotten?

I have to remember that although it’s my house, it’s their room. Children spend a lot of time in their rooms and it should reflect their style, not mine. Allow them to use their creativity as an outlet to decorating their own space. This is probably one of the first things they can do that will allow them to be an individual. I still need to guide them, as these decisions are made, to watch budget, safety and growth potential. (By growth potential I mean that if your child decides on a style of window treatment and fabric, make sure that the window treatment being picked at age 8, will grow with them to age 16. So maybe the style of the window treatment is okay, but the fabric needs to be more age neutral.)

Letting my children be a part of the decorating process as well as allowing a poster or two of Justin Beiber to be hung, will not only be adding to the "beauty" of my home, but me and my children will be happier for it.

Understanding this is still a work in process for me; I’m still having a hard time getting rid of my daughter’s high chair even though she’s turning 8 in a few months. It's even harder to get rid of her flower lamp and flower dresser knobs...They grow up so fast.